Learn, grow, repeat...

These past few weeks I have been provided with a LOT of babysitting jobs. Such a blessing to me in more ways than financially!


I am learning a lot about what it means to instill values in children. Growing up I probably didn't learn the best methods for discipline and those methods have stuck with me for the long run. I am finally learning, through watching great families love on their wonderful children, better ways to discipline children and more than that how to love and encourage them more. 


I am reminded that kids will seek any kind of attention they can get. Also I find that most kids are good. It is when they are tired or when they are bored that they tend not to be wearing their "listening ears". Through being around these great families that i talked about above, I am learning to have more patience and to really put that patience to the test. It's so easy to say that I have patience, but if I am not gentle with the children or understanding of the fact that they are still young and just like to. have fun, then I am not truly being patient. 


I am usually reminded of the fact that God is more than patient with me, because He knows the stupid things I do. And the stupid things that i continue to do. Even though I don't want to do them, I still tend to do them. I'm very much like Paul in this aspect "I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate," (Romans 7:15; ESV). 


How is it that it is so easy to deny God and please ourselves than it is to have it done the other way around? That just bugs the crap out of me. I have next to nothing in the willpower department when it comes to do that which God asks me to do rather than that which I would prefer to do. Myself [nearly] always wins. "So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me," (Romans 7:17-20; ESV). 


On Sunday at Providence, Jim Wood talked about the Call & Cost of Discipleship as seen in Matthew 16:24-27. He talked about these verses and showed them to be broken down into three steps. Discipleship is about The Call, The Warning, and The Reward.


The Call says that following Jesus involves "self-denial;" [putting down my own interests to take on God's and other people's] which means [saying no to living to my own selfish desires and living out what God has told me to]. It also involves "suffering" [Acts 9:15-16]. Lastly, we follow Jesus by emulating Him [learning from, following His example, going where He goes and doing what He does (Matthew 16:26)].


The Warning reminds me that striving to save my life "now" will result in losing it "ultimately" [the world offers us nothing compared to Heaven - it pales in comparison to the offer of LIFE]. It also reminds me that Nothing the world offers compares to eternal life [the call of Jesus is to a greater reward]. and lastly that we will be "rewarded" according to what we have done [this does not say that I will be saved based on what I have done, but rather the reward in Heaven will be based on what I have done]. “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose” - Jim Elliot. 


Finally The Reward we receive is "fulfilling what God created us for" [Eph 2:8-10 & Titus 3:14]. The Reward is "Christ Himself" [Phil 1:21. I need to remember though, that if I follow Christ for any other reason than because I love Him, then i am not really following Him]. The Reward is also "Eternal glory" [Romans 8:18].


Having "it all" means having Jesus. If I were to answer the questions of "Do I die daily to self" the answer would be no. I can guarantee that I have never died a day in my life. Honestly, I hate to admit that, but it's the honest truth. It's a struggle to die by the decision of the moment. It's hard and costly. Let's be honest here. the cross is intense suffering and shame until death. But, it is what I was made for. I don't want to miss it. I don't want to waste my life, though I tend to do that more and more as I go along. 


Chances are if I am doing something, i have dirty motives behind it. I will admit that there are times when i don't, but the "clean" motives aren't something that come naturally. I have to struggle for them and I have to put aside what I would like to see happen because of what i've just done and it's hard. But I am learning that God is the only motive I need. Not in a legalistic kind of way, but in a way of love...


I am figuring out how to put the love chapter into play and what it truly means....


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres [1 corinthians 13:4-7; NIV]

  Love never gives up.
   Love cares more for others than for self.
   Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
   Love doesn't strut,
   Doesn't have a swelled head,
   Doesn't force itself on others,
   Isn't always "me first,"
   Doesn't fly off the handle,
   Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
   Doesn't revel when others grovel,
   Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
   Puts up with anything,
   Trusts God always,
   Always looks for the best,
   Never looks back,
   But keeps going to the end. [1 Cor 13:4-7; The Message].

tattatatta tattatatta tattatatta tattatatta TAT'toooo....

On one note - I want to get more tattoos.

I will tell you what they are...!

I have a few ideas that are works in process.
One I want to get that says "I am who I am by the grace of God"
Another i want to get is a compass. Showing me that I do not guide myself.
This would also signify that God is my guide and that I will wait on him...

Another I wish for is a boat - in the style of the tall ship - to signify Michigan.
Adding to that, maybe the lighthouse & a sunset. The sunset will be in color. 

Great colors, like red-orange, and yellow. maybe some blue and purple...
A Gorgeous reminder of home and how I've grown up.

on that note - I am going to continue my googling search of these tattoos.
Goodnight :)

Laziest days =o]

I enjoy days when i can sleep in. Today I slept in without worry until 11:00. It was joyous. 

I had a strange dream right before i woke up. I was at home and it was during the summer because there were tornados. It was just like i was at home - [mostly] everything in it's rightful place. The one difference was that pops was there and he had just returned from duty and was tired and maybe injured. not sure. 

before the tornado part, it was a little weird. maybe I was at the Beach with the fam or somewhere and I leaned over pops and told him that I loved him and then he said that he loved me too but that he didn't always like me and then I laughed and told him the same thing... [weird.]

anyway, back to the tornados - there were a few of them outside in different areas - one more to the north of Soho, one to the direct and very far away west, and then one came behind the house. I was watching this one and it came really close to the house and I screamed at everyone to get in the basement but no one did so I sat on the stairs - I think ana had come over by then - we we huddled on the bottom step of the stairs - [which would have been really dumb because it was right by the tornado.] I was really pissed at pops because he was just laying on his bed not going to the basement or anything and I was angry that he was just laying there and would have died if the tornado came that way. 

and then I woke up.

sometimes i think about the past in that I never said goodbye to pops before he died.  I sometimes get really angry and upset by the fact that he died and I wasn't there to see him. And also by the callousness of mom's greeting when I got there. And then I wonder if Anna [RD] knew that he had already passed away when she received the phone call.  But then I get mad at myself for not really saying goodbye to what was left of pops. For not shedding any tears. For not showing any emotion. After all of that I wonder why God's plan was not to have me there to see Dad's ending. And because I've never asked about it, I wonder about Andrew and what he saw and how he felt and if he cried. 

All of these things cause me to want to be more of an emotional person, more vulnerable, but the truth is I just can't do it. Not by myself - I need God to work a great miracle in me in order to accomplish this.

Since 2004 I can count on two hand the times when i've really seen any semblance of crying or bawling come from me. 

tracey's funeral - singing amazing grace when putting her physical body in the ground

at sau finding out dad had cancer - during a period of depression and great sadness

kyle's memorial service at SAU - right after pops was diagnosed with cancer - sang 

the bucket list - the end of the movie  - seizing on the ground [reminded me of pops]

talking to alan about all of dad's stuff - reliving the fact that I wasn't there to say goodbye

when E-Shaw passed away - breaking down from everything that had happened in that past week

It's a little crazy. I didn't cry when dad passed away or at his funeral or anything... not around family or friends or acquaintances... I don't think I've even been a real crier-type of person, but I still want to be. Hahaha, not sure if that is weird or not but it is what it is.

There was always, and still is, a tattoo that I wanted. It says "I am what I am by the grace of God". It just reminds me that I am where I am and have become who I am because of God and his guiding and leading and that I should not wish to be different or have lived a different life because then I wouldn't be what I am now. that is pretty inspiring to me. even in the wake of the above written blog. 

A day of hopeful change

God is good :)

Today, much later today, I have two interviews. One is for a potential 2 day a week nannying position though that is not definite as there is already a person who has it - I am only backup incase that person falls through.
Second I have an interview at the Brandon Center which is part of the Volunteers of America. This is a shelter for women and children (I would mostly be working with the single women) as an overnight residential coordinator (or a glorified watchmen). It would be 30 hours a week, Friday nights, Saturday night, and Sunday nights from 10 p.m. until 8 a.m. While this isn't my first pick with their organization, I will take it if it is offered to me! I can't be picky when I don't have a job and a perk of this place is that I will be able to use my social work skills! I applied for this about two months ago and it's nice to finally see some fruit starting to bloom.

While I'm not going to hold my breath and put all of my hope into this, I will see this interview as a definite chance to actually getting a job! For that I am very excited and hope that this pans out. The pay is good, and I would make decent money even though it's only a PT 30 hour/week job. Plus, if I were able to get the PT nannying job, I would love it.

Lots of good things are happening in my life right now :) Just waiting to see how all will pan out and praying that I'll walk away with a job offer in the next few days. I'm just waiting to see how God is going to work through this situation.

I am waiting for SAU to get the tuition reimbursement check from DRM so that I can use it to put some money towards loans. I really have no idea how that will all work out, but we will see. God is providing for me so I don't have any worries about anything. I know that He works all things together for my good and His glory and I have seen so many of those fruits since being in Denver. From having a place to live right now for free and not really worrying about what is going to happen, to also allowing the McCall's to let me use their truck if I need to go places, when I want. And also providing me places to go and friendships to build and grow.

What is God teaching you?

Recap of my current situation.

My my my, it is late! Phew, I definitely need to get into a better sleeping routine!
This is what happens when i have wifi at my fingertips and a music downloading agent... YIKES!

Anyway, so, I figure an update of my life is very much called for.

I am still in Denver - have no plans to move on out yet : )
I am staying with a great family - Randy & Sheryl McCall at their house in Arvada for right now until I can get on my feet and find a job that pays so I that I can move into my own apartment or something like that... I have a nannying job in the works and would love for it to work out but then I'm not going to get my hopes up.

I haven't had a real job since December 18th. I've been looking for social workey jobs but have not had any luck. I have also tried looking for some other sorts of jobs like babysitting and so on. That has panned out semi-okay. I do a lot of babysitting for families at Providence. I have about 3 regular-ish families I sit for when needed. I have to say that even though I've not worked God has blessed me with enough money to pay my bills and even buy a few needed things - like some new clothes and other items.

I moved in with the McCall's this past Friday. My pride would love if I could move out by February but that is not something I can count on. God has been teaching me a lot of lessons like being patient and understanding that He knows what He is doing and does all things in His perfect timing. He has also been teaching me about my pride and that I need to learn to rely on other people and not feel bad for doing so. He has also been teaching me, though I fail quite miserably when it comes to this, about being vulnerable and open with who I am and the struggles that I am going through.

I have never been open with my situations - any one of my friends can testify that I ask them more questions about themselves and share less about myself in any given situation. The truth is I like to think that any problems I have are less important that other people's problems and feel that I tend to handle what I am going through better by myself. The other truth of this matter is the fact that I hate being vulnerable. I don't like to let people see what is going on with me and it's rather rude to be honest.

I am still involved with Providence -www.provcast.org & http://www.providencedenver.org. I really love the people who are there and consider them family and am privileged to know them and to interact with and love them. I am a member of the greeting team and also help in the toddler's room. 

I am no longer working at the DRM and I definitely miss it. I might look into volunteering there once and a while. I've gone over to TC a couple of times and love seeing people while I am there.

So, that's life for me in a nutshell.

Yet again...

my plans have proceeded to not be good plans and therefore have been spoiled.

I will not be living with Michelle anymore, as she needed to provide for herself and had a girl move in and sign the lease. While I knew that this was a possibility, it took me by surprise a little bit. IT was a little frustrating, but I know that God is using this time in my life to change me and refine who I am becoming. Part of this is my own fault for asking God to put His will into play in my life. If you want things to not get a little crazy, don't ask Him for his will to be done. :)

Still, I highly suggest asking Him to place it in your life. Yeah, things get a little crazy, plans get shredded and you often wonder what you've got yourself into, but God is a provider. He has this amazing way of letting things work out eventually, though not in the way your planned, or oftentimes even close to the way you pictured it in your mind.

Housesitting has been going well, I cannot at all complain. I just tend to lose track of what the date is... After Thursday (which I now know as being two nights away including tonight) I will go and live with the McCall's until a further date.

I am still looking for a job but not with much luck. I am looking into going to grad school to pursue my MSW which should better allow me to find a "real job". I am also looking for babysitting jobs, and am finding quite a few of them through Providence. These have been a real blessing and most often unexpected. I have been blessed beyond measure. I am surrounded by wonderful people who insist on blessing me even though my pride gets in the way and i don't ask for it.

I was recently given a $150 dollar check from a wonderful girl who felt the Lord put it on her heart to do so. That was a huge blessing that I hope to be able to bless others with.

Overall, I am learning a lot about myself and about God and what more could I ask for?

http://provcast.org/Provcast.org/Providence_Bible_Church_Podcast/Entries/2010/1/3_Forgiven_Part_2.html
--> GREAT sermon by Josh Larsen. It will really make you think!

Life and all of it's crazyness.

So, I am still a traversing person on the road to my own life.
I still am looking for a job, and while I'm not yet having much luck, I did get three leads that I am going to call on later today...

I am currently residing at the McCall household for one last night. Then, tomorrow i start a house-sitting gig for the Lanzen's. I will be there from tomorrow night until next Thursday the 7th. That is a blessing to have because I'm still not sure about living conditions...

I'm not sure what is going to happen with Michelle's right now. I'm stubborn and want to be able to stay there and pay her for this coming month, but then I'm also stubborn because I don't want to have to sell my stuff, but i will if I need to...I just put my digital camera up for sale on Craigslist. I figure that enough people have a camera so I don't need one...
I will be planning on selling my laptop next...I still have my Ipod Touch so that will work for me, at least for right now...

SO yeah, life is full of kinks that need to b e worked out but I still hold fast to the knowledge that God has my life under control and it will all work out eventually. I am not panicking or worrying about what is going to happen because it adds nothing to my life, rather it takes away from my joy and happiness. I know that God is my provider, He is my source and he will give me what I need when I need it in the time that I need it in. I am blessed to have a family here in Denver whom I love and who loves me. I have friendships with many people and I know that if I do need something, it will be provided for me from someone.

I attend a wonderful church with a wonderful body. I am growing in my faith and am having to live it out actively. I am being put to the challenge of letting my yes mean yes and my no mean no. I am able to help people out in tangible ways, though not yet financially. I know that one day it will all fall into place. I am actively seeking out ways to be resourceful and to support those who I call friends.

I am blessed to have a place to stay, food to eat, and people that care about my well-being.